30 March 2010

to my grandparents

the most loving thing i've seen wasn't on tv or in a movie.
it wasn't in books, or in my imagination.

2 days before my paternal grandmother died, a few members of the family was sitting around her bed and my grandfather was holding her hand. the look that transpired between them was one i had never seen in my entire life.

i later asked my father what that look meant. he paused and thought for a while said
'i think its grandma letting kong kong know she's going soon'.

that look said everything.
it said take care
don't forget to eat
i'll miss you
i'm going soon
be good
i forgive you
thank you
i love you
very very much

that look was beyond words. it said everything. and even the most cynical person would believe in love after seeing my grandparents like that.

they quarrelled alot. i remember them bickering at sunday dinners over kong kong eating more, i used to call them 'kids'. i know my grandmother wasn't easiest person to get along with, her temper was infamous. my grandfather courted her by going over to her father's place to do business and sit there and both of them would quietly eat bananas together. they had been through alot together.

60 years, 4 children & 5 grandchildren.

to my grandparents.

1 comment:

couchpotato said...

Love the way you wrote it... I can imagine myself right there looking at your grandparents like that. Now that your grandma has gone on to greater things, continue her feisty legacy then :)